Monday, November 16, 2009

All About Love and People

Living far from your homeland and being alone is not easy nor difficult for us to go through. At the beginning, I found it hard and uneasy to adapt to my new environment. As time goes by, I'm getting used to it with longing misses to my loved ones in Malaysia. One thing does disturbed my mind, the love gossips all over me. I'm not stating I'm the only one having trouble with it but the people around the world face the same thing.

Thank God, my family and my best friends never ever sabotages people relationship by giving pressure to both parties or bad-mouthing all the time. My family taught me never ever tries to damage people relationship as you have no rights to do so. I agree personally. Why would you want to interfere or complain while you are not the person who is going to spend the rest of your life with them? You have your own husband/ wife, or bf/ gf, or enjoy single life, why would you want to interfere other people love relationship which supposing none of your business? It is pitiful when the person did not do anything wrong to you.

People have their own different living style and their own thinking is a very normal thing. This is the reason why we are unique individuals! Some people may love wearing T-shirt, some people may love wearing dress, some people may love wearing jeans, and etc. Just because people don’t wear the same type of attire, you can use this reason as weapon in destroying people relationship? You may say you did not, every time you bad-mouthed people due to this reason, what are you doing? You are destroying people love relationship. When you are trying to pull a long gap between the couple and breaking the communication between them, what are you doing? You are destroying people love relationship. Even some may go worst than that by accusing the person is bad because he/she has a good level of drinking. What is this?

The other scenario is your ex. I would like to use the real example scenario from a person I known. He has an ex-gf whom they broke up due to the unfaithfulness of the girl. FYI, the ex-gf previously cheated on him by dating numerous of guys and even got herself pregnant from one of her crazy night affair. She blames other people for her misbehaving without feeling regret of wrongdoings. Even got caught, she gave a ridiculous reason of being possessed in order to deny her fault. After broke up, she still continue her dating as usual and he decided to move on. After recovery period, he manages to start a new love relationship. Funny part is, she became so emotionally by thinking to kill herself after killing the current gf of her ex-bf while she was dating other guy. I’m pretty worried the innocent gf of him as her safety definitely being threaten. His ex-gf has the record of hurting herself with a knife and chasing him with a knife before too. (I mean there is really blood and injury!)

If I’m in the love relationship, honestly, I would rather choose to break up than going through this. First, I would not want to ruin my loved one family relationship or friendship. Second, I do not want to live my life with the interruption of unnecessary conflicts of other parties. Of course before I made this decision, I definitely give an ample of time for my loved one to stop this unnecessary interruption. If interruption came from your family, talk nicely and question them what is the problem with them when your loved one is different from them? They are not criminal, they did nothing wrong, they are just different culture. Most important who are the one marrying them? Friend’s interruption, they are not even qualified to be your friend. A friend is the one who understand and support you along the way and not trying to break you down. If it came from psycho people as described above, delete or throw any possible items or pictures in order to avoid any misunderstanding and draw a clear line.

What happen to people around the world now? Why there is people who have weird thinking? Why people want to do stupid things and hurt people through love relationship? Why people do not appreciate their lives? We shall be grateful if we are healthy and alive with great things ahead us. If we don’t start living our life by appreciating it well, those people who want to live but they can’t due to disease or unfortunate incidents will feel unfair as they deserve to live better rather than you.